Congratulations on your engagement! As you are taking your first step on the path of love, we are here to assist you on your journey. "Today, there are those who say that marriage is out of fashion... They say that it is not worth making a life-long commitment, making a definitive decision, ‘for ever’, because we do not know what tomorrow will bring. I ask you, instead, to be revolutionaries, I ask you to swim against the tide; yes, I am asking you to rebel against this culture that sees everything as temporary and that ultimately believes you are incapable of responsibility, that believes you are incapable of true love." –Pope Francis
Completion of the following steps provides you with necessary preparation for the Sacrament of Matrimony. Step 1: Meet with Fr. Brad Forintos (Before you set a wedding date) Step 2: Marriage Preparation Inventory The church requires you to begin your marriage preparation at least six months before your wedding date. During this time of preparation you and your fiancé will be given the opportunity to focus on your relationship readiness, skills and expectations for lifelong marriage, and understanding Catholic marriage as a sacrament. Your marriage preparation will cover a number of topics including:
Marriage as a Sacrament
Careers and Family Life
Commitment and Church
Family of Origin
Catholic Understanding of Intimacy, Sex and Procreation
Natural Family Planning
Step 3: Plan the Wedding LiturgyThe Catholic Church recognizes marriages between Catholics and non-Catholics when:
One is Catholic and the other is baptized Christian, but not Catholic
One is Catholic and the other is a member of a different religion
Meet with Fr. Brad or Deacon David Drysdale to plan the liturgy for your wedding ceremony.
Complete the Marriage Preparation Program outline by St. Joseph Catholic Church.
Obtain marriage license
Schedule rehearsal for ceremony
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS When can we schedule our wedding date? Your wedding date and time may be scheduled at your first marriage appointment with Fr. Brad Forintos. What days of the week and times are weddings celebrated? Weddings are typically celebrated on Friday evenings at 5:00 PM or Saturdays at 11:00 AM and 2:00 PM. Other days of the week are permitted, providing that both the church and priest are available. Parishioners may also celebrate a wedding during a regularly scheduled Sunday Mass. Are there any days that weddings are not permitted? The Catholic Church does not permit nuptial masses and other ritual masses on November 2, the Feast of All Souls or on other solemn feasts, such as Solemnity of Mary (Octave of Christmas) Jan 1, Christmas Day, and during Holy Week. Marriages during the Season of Lent are not encouraged. When and where will the rehearsal be held? The rehearsal is typically held in the church the night before the wedding at 5:00 PM. If for some special reason, the day before the wedding does not work, an alternate date can be arranged. Who will preside at our wedding? We invite you to meet with our parish priest if you are going to marry at St. Joseph Catholic Church. You can reach him via email at firstname.lastname@example.org. Guest priests are also welcome to celebrate the wedding. What time are we able to arrive at the church? The church is available an hour and a half before your scheduled wedding time on the day of the wedding and half an hour after the wedding ends. You are welcome to take pictures before, during, and after the wedding. Although, flash photography is not allowed during the ceremony. Will the marriage be celebrated within the celebration of Mass? If both the bride and the groom are Catholic and the Eucharist is meaningful to them, celebrating a marriage within a Mass is recommended since the Eucharist is our main sign of unity. This entire liturgy will be approximately one hour in length. If either the bride or the groom is not Catholic, it is recommended the marriage be celebrated without a Mass. Since at present, Catholics and other Christians do not have shared communion, it would be inhospitable to have only the bride or the groom receive the Eucharist. This communicates a strong symbol of disunity. This entire liturgy will be approximately forty minutes in length. Can we have flowers, pew bows, and runners? You are welcome to bring flowers to decorate the church except during the season of Lent. However, your bridal party is welcome to carry flowers all year. You may use pew bows but please do not use tape to attach them (rubber bands, floral wire and pipe cleaners work just was well). Aisle runners are a nice touch to a wedding, they do however create an issue of tripping by guests and wedding party. They are permitted, but not recommended. How many witnesses or people in the bridal party should we have? The size of your bridal party is up to you. The Catholic Church does require that you have two witnesses present. These witnesses must be at least 16 years of age and they do not have to be Catholic. However, the State of Michigan requires that the witnesses signing the marriage license are at least 18 years of age. The music you select for your wedding must be liturgical in nature or instrumental. You are strongly encouraged to use St. Joseph Musicians. If you chose to use a liturgical musician that is not affiliated with our parish you are still required to meet with our Wedding Music Coordinator Sean Calvin. Who will help plan the marriage liturgy? One of our Wedding Coordinators will assist you in planning the details of the liturgy. She will schedule and conduct your rehearsal, finish preparing the marriage license, as well as be present on your wedding day from the time you arrive to the time you depart, making sure all details are complete. Plan to meet with the Wedding Coordinator at least four weeks before the wedding and feel free to call her with questions regarding flowers, photography, etc. anytime leading up to that meeting. What Scripture readings will be used, how do we select them and who should read them? You need to select THREE readings for your wedding: one from the Old Testament/Hebrew Scriptures, one from the New Testament/Christian Scriptures, and one from the Gospels in the New Testament. When you have made your Scripture selections, select ONE wedding guest to read the Old Testament/Hebrew Scripture reading and ONE wedding guest to read the New Testament reading. The priest/deacon will read the Gospel from the New Testament. Select one person, to read the Prayers of the Faithful. The person reading the Prayers of the Faithful does not have to be Catholic. Please remember in your choice of readers to select people who read clearly and distinctly, who can project their voice, and who are not afraid of a microphone. Give all the readers their reading well in advance so they can practice. Please, consider also selecting readers who can attend the rehearsal so that they can practice in the actual space and with the sound system. If you are having a wedding Mass, you will also need two people to bring the gifts of bread and wine forward. The gift bearers do not have to be Catholic. What role does Hospitality play? To be welcoming, hospitality always plays an important role. It speaks of gratitude to friends and family when the bride and groom greet and welcome their guests upon arrival. It creates a relaxed, welcoming atmosphere, putting people in a celebratory and participatory mood. Since your guests have been invited to share in this special day in your life, it dispenses with formality by putting emphasis on the relationship of the couple to the guests. It may also help relax and calm you during the time you are waiting for the liturgy to begin. It is a beautiful way of expressing gratitude and appreciation to guests for their presence. Although this is optional, it is worth your consideration. Ushers/Greeters: Ushers and greeters could be inside or outside welcoming people. Worship Aides: You can be assured your guests are greeted if you choose people for this role who are welcoming by nature. Guest Book: If you plan to have a guest book at the church, it is good to have a person placed at the book to welcome guests and invite them to sign the guest book. What about wedding customs? Flowers to the Blessed Mother: This practice is a personal religious devotion. It consists of taking flowers to the statue of the Blessed Mother. The couple silently asks Mary to remain close to them throughout their marriage. This custom is optional, so if it is not important to you personally, we do not suggest you add it to your ceremony. Are there expenses? Please discuss this with Fr. Brad.
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